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Grieving a loss 3 Tips how to start to win the inner war with yourself

Grieving a Loss There’s no doubt that every person Grieving a loss, starts out with a whole lot of questions, especially at the beginning of Grieving the loss of a loved one’s process. The problem is, without the right answers, most people Grieving a loss throw up their hands and just give up. Luckily for you, here are my top 3 tips for what you should think of doing when Grieving the loss of a loved one. Tips every person who is Grieving a loss may think they know, but must be reminded, so you can begin to win the war that you wage with your inner self. 1st we need to understand whats going on. What we need to understand about grieving a loss and the inner war that we have with our self is this. Think of it as something like a pro-cons list We wage war with our self each day as I say. It’s the inner game that beats us every time. This is the waves of emotions that’s what...
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Overcoming Grief: Steps you can take

Guest Post – David Miller – Overcoming Grief: Steps You Can Take to Forge Your Own Path from Grieving to Healing Grief can be all-encompassing. In the midst of it, life grinds to a halt. The mental, emotional, and physical energy you used to devote to your daily tasks is now devoted to grieving. When my sister died in a car accident seven years ago, my grief was so demanding that I took an extended leave of absence from work a year after her death, just to deal with the overwhelming loss. During this time, grief consumed most of each day. As a result, I could only manage to accomplish one or two things a day: Take one phone call, wash a sink-full of dishes, do a load of laundry.  On the worst days, my grief felt like a leaden weight, confining me to my apartment or my bed, where I spent the day missing my sister. Grief was not so much an emotion as much as a full-time job, without the pay and...
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013: Replay The power of your story

The power of your story Yes your story does have power to others. If you could understand the power of your story. In this replay of our Wednesday night call I talk about the power of your story just as a story was shared with me over 23 years ago following the death of my daughter Kelsey. On June 15, 1993 when my daughter had passed away from a drowning accident. I had a friend come and share his story with me. To get the full story just listen to the replay of our call. Video and PPT or you can listen to the MP3. As I will share with you it wasn’t till many years later did I understand the meaning that he was trying to say to me. His story did help me so much at the time. The true meaning is that there is HOPE. There is a life beyond your grief. MP3 Beyond grief Understand the power of your story. Not only will your story help others to understand but...
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Grief

Am I OK? It’s years later, I Don’t feel OK

Am I OK? I Don’t feel OK. So what do you do when you ask yourself. Am I OK? I don’t feel OK. It’s years later, you ask yourself this question, then what. Shouldn’t you be OK by Now? WOW, I had asked myself this question so many times over the years. There were days, I would answer yes and those days I would answer no or maybe I just wasn’t sure. Let me say this.  From what I have learned about myself and talking to others. I listen to what people say to a grieving person or comment about somebody who is grieving. They question the person who is grieving, it’s been years later, they begin to tell them or put into their head that they are not OK and ask if they should get help because they should be better now. Who are these people? I ask the question, who are these people who would say that or think this about someone who is grieving a loss. A loss that may be...
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Motivation

#1 Tip to finding your cause and mission in life

#1 Tip to find your cause and mission in life My #1 tip for finding your cause and mission in life following a loss. I went over 23 years looking for a meaning behind my loss, How I can bring something positive out of something that was the worst day in my life. My #1 tip is to develop your story. Understand that your cause and meaning is deep inside of you. Understand that you’ll have to dig deep and peal back the layers of your story to find your passion, your mission and statement. What is so important to you? You’ll find that what you’re looking for. It took me over 20+ years to learn this. How to find my cause and mission in life. If someone would have shared this with me so long ago. How many people could I of made a difference in. How many lives would have been changed or saved. If you could tell your story to bring change to bring awareness to others. What would you say?...
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Who is your Hero when it comes to having Hope following a loss

Who is your hero for having hope following a loss? When I lost my daughter in 1993 I would have never looked at another who lost a loved one as  my HERO. However I had a friend that come to me and told me his story of loss. You see what he shared with me is a story of such tragedy and out of that tragedy come so much hope and for this reason I would name him my HERO for hope following a loss. His Story As he shared with me that he and his wife with their son was driving down the highway on this day that is no different from any other day that you or I would be driving down the road. An oncoming truck went left of center, as he tried to avoid the truck, they hit head on. The driver side sustained the majority of the damage. For some reason he walked away. However his wife, son did not survive the accident. Why he shared his story You...
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Grief

100% All In

Are You 100% All In If I was or somebody was to ask you if you are 100% All In what would you say? All In – What does it mean to you? Most people will think it has something to do with gambling. You through all your chips in, one last chance to win. You’re holding all the A’s. To me it means – When I make a decision to do something that I go all in. I feel as my training in sports as well as the coaches that I have had in life has developed this in me. Not to mention my business practices of the years. We’re faced with a decision to make, it’s not a question if it’s a right or wrong. It’s that we must make the decision and make it the right one. Work to bring about the outcome that we desire. So all in means that at all cost I will do everything in my power, focus and desire that is required to bring about the...
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011: Falling Short in my Grieving Process

Falling Short Falling Short – If we live life long enough not to mention have certain expectation of ourselves, don’t worry we all will be falling short at some time. With that being said. Do you ever feel that you’re falling short in your grieving process? The grieving process is a healing process. It is also about growth. Growth can mean so many things. In this context I’m talking about our grief and growing as to be able to regain that part of our life back that we thought was gone forever. To fall short just means that you or somebody else had a certain exception for you and you didn’t live up to that. That’s is OK, it’s normal. Growth Growth in the grieving process means to me, that we take 2 steps forward, 1 step back. On Monday we have a good day, then on a Thursday we have a bad day. We have a week full of insights then a week of sluggishness. These are just a normal days and week...
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010: Empowering grieving heart

Welcome to our recording Empowering grieving heart for Wednesday 3/29/17 at 8 pm EST Empowering grieving heart, What are you giving your power and focus to I believe that life events cause us to become dis-empowered. Empowering grieving heart. We need to find what is it that we are giving our power to. Shift our focus, so we can begin to live the life that we were intended. My life event that change my life forever, left an emotion scar on my soul was June 15, 1993. I can remember it just as if it was yesterday. I went through my 1st year as a grieving father, not knowing how to grieve the death of my daughter, but how does one ever know how to grieve. I’m the father, a man who was to be strong, not show emotion, not cry. I kept a lot of my pain on the inside, However I made some really bad decisions in that first year that has cost me dearly. Even today 24 years later I still...
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