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Old Beliefs – New Beliefs

Old Beliefs do die-hard. Or at least that’s what they say It seems like “fast” never quite rates “fast enough!” And when it comes to Belief.  Someone who struggles with belief will tell you that nothing ever seems to go as quickly as we want or expect. Well, let me do my part for you by giving you 1 specific Belief Tip to help you develop a new belief structure As for most of us at some point in time we struggle with just getting out of bed and doing the everyday things we need to do. When I talk and work with someone who has suffered a life event like mine on June 15 1993 when my daughter had passed away. Our life changes so much so quickly. It impacts us so much just to be able to deal with and process all the information that is being thrown at us. We tend to fall back on what we know from our past experiences, We may never of had any experience with what...
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Grieving a loss 3 Tips how to start to win the inner war with yourself

Grieving a Loss There’s no doubt that every person Grieving a loss, starts out with a whole lot of questions, especially at the beginning of Grieving the loss of a loved one’s process. The problem is, without the right answers, most people Grieving a loss throw up their hands and just give up. Luckily for you, here are my top 3 tips for what you should think of doing when Grieving the loss of a loved one. Tips every person who is Grieving a loss may think they know, but must be reminded, so you can begin to win the war that you wage with your inner self. 1st we need to understand whats going on. What we need to understand about grieving a loss and the inner war that we have with our self is this. Think of it as something like a pro-cons list We wage war with our self each day as I say. It’s the inner game that beats us every time. This is the waves of emotions that’s what...
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Overcoming Grief: Steps you can take

Guest Post – David Miller – Overcoming Grief: Steps You Can Take to Forge Your Own Path from Grieving to Healing Grief can be all-encompassing. In the midst of it, life grinds to a halt. The mental, emotional, and physical energy you used to devote to your daily tasks is now devoted to grieving. When my sister died in a car accident seven years ago, my grief was so demanding that I took an extended leave of absence from work a year after her death, just to deal with the overwhelming loss. During this time, grief consumed most of each day. As a result, I could only manage to accomplish one or two things a day: Take one phone call, wash a sink-full of dishes, do a load of laundry.  On the worst days, my grief felt like a leaden weight, confining me to my apartment or my bed, where I spent the day missing my sister. Grief was not so much an emotion as much as a full-time job, without the pay and...
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Grief

Am I OK? It’s years later, I Don’t feel OK

Am I OK? I Don’t feel OK. So what do you do when you ask yourself. Am I OK? I don’t feel OK. It’s years later, you ask yourself this question, then what. Shouldn’t you be OK by Now? WOW, I had asked myself this question so many times over the years. There were days, I would answer yes and those days I would answer no or maybe I just wasn’t sure. Let me say this.  From what I have learned about myself and talking to others. I listen to what people say to a grieving person or comment about somebody who is grieving. They question the person who is grieving, it’s been years later, they begin to tell them or put into their head that they are not OK and ask if they should get help because they should be better now. Who are these people? I ask the question, who are these people who would say that or think this about someone who is grieving a loss. A loss that may be...
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Motivation

#1 Tip to finding your cause and mission in life

#1 Tip to find your cause and mission in life My #1 tip for finding your cause and mission in life following a loss. I went over 23 years looking for a meaning behind my loss, How I can bring something positive out of something that was the worst day in my life. My #1 tip is to develop your story. Understand that your cause and meaning is deep inside of you. Understand that you’ll have to dig deep and peal back the layers of your story to find your passion, your mission and statement. What is so important to you? You’ll find that what you’re looking for. It took me over 20+ years to learn this. How to find my cause and mission in life. If someone would have shared this with me so long ago. How many people could I of made a difference in. How many lives would have been changed or saved. If you could tell your story to bring change to bring awareness to others. What would you say?...
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Motivation

Who is your Hero when it comes to having Hope following a loss

Who is your hero for having hope following a loss? When I lost my daughter in 1993 I would have never looked at another who lost a loved one as  my HERO. However I had a friend that come to me and told me his story of loss. You see what he shared with me is a story of such tragedy and out of that tragedy come so much hope and for this reason I would name him my HERO for hope following a loss. His Story As he shared with me that he and his wife with their son was driving down the highway on this day that is no different from any other day that you or I would be driving down the road. An oncoming truck went left of center, as he tried to avoid the truck, they hit head on. The driver side sustained the majority of the damage. For some reason he walked away. However his wife, son did not survive the accident. Why he shared his story You...
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Grief

100% All In

Are You 100% All In If I was or somebody was to ask you if you are 100% All In what would you say? All In – What does it mean to you? Most people will think it has something to do with gambling. You through all your chips in, one last chance to win. You’re holding all the A’s. To me it means – When I make a decision to do something that I go all in. I feel as my training in sports as well as the coaches that I have had in life has developed this in me. Not to mention my business practices of the years. We’re faced with a decision to make, it’s not a question if it’s a right or wrong. It’s that we must make the decision and make it the right one. Work to bring about the outcome that we desire. So all in means that at all cost I will do everything in my power, focus and desire that is required to bring about the...
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Workplace grief

Workplace grief Do you or have you had to deal with workplace grief? When I lost my daughter in 1993 I owned my own business, so I didn’t really have to deal with workplace grief. I was the boss. I have heard so many others that I have talked with over the years that tell such a different story about workplace grief. I could make a long list of the comments that I have heard about. What would you say Now you may know how it is to lose a close loved one. If someone called tomorrow and said that they just experienced a loss of a loved one, what would you say to them? If you were the supervisor in charge of running a department and had to turn a profit. I know what I would say, but for many supervisors and owners that don’t understand and have to track the bottom line their answer may be very different. Did you know that $ billions dollars of revenue are lost in Business...
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How I stay connected to Kelsey

How I Stay Connected Listen to my recording of Wednesday nights call How I stay connected to Kelsey. I will stay it is mostly LOVE. The love that I feel for my daughter. The connection that I can make by clearing my mind being able to go to a place that is calm, peaceful. To visualize that place that makes me happy. It brings a smile to my face. But before I go any further here I want to give you a link to the song that I played as we were getting started along with a video with the song lyrics so you can not only read and hear the words but feel the true meaning of them. So you can learn how I stay connected. These words have a deep meaning to me.  I hope you come back or copy and past this so you can listen. This may make you sad in the beginning, Understand that is a state of mind and begin to focus on connecting so you can begin...
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Motivation

Design your ideal life

Design your ideal life What do you think about when I ask the question, Design your ideal life? Before you answer that, let me tell you a little bit about what I think of that question. If someone would have said that to me after my daughter had passed away. I would have laughed at them and said you have to be joking. How in the world can I do that without my daughter in my life? I hated my life so much that I wanted it to end, let alone look to the future. It just wasn’t a very promising outlook for me. Years later Fast forward years later if you were to ask me to design my ideal life, I would love to explore that idea. Some people would say, right you would say that because it has been 23+ years following my daughter’s death. Not so fast. I have met so many people not to mention worked with many people who are 20, 30 years in their journey with grief that...
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