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The way life was

Do we live in the past. The way life was. I know for myself I say all to often “back in the day”, you can finish the rest of that sentence. I know that life seems as it was so much better in the past. The way life was. When you think about it life is very good in the present we just need to open our eyes to see what is in front of us. My daughter passed away June of 1993. Life was so good for us as a family with our future ahead of us, so much to look forward to. You may be dealing with so much in your life, dealing with your loss, grief whether it is fresh in your mind or many years have gone by like myself. The way life was When we live in the past we don’t see what is right in front of us sometimes. For example: Family Friends Work Loved ones The beauty that surrounds us What God has intended for us I know...
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Loss of pet I’m still grieving my loved one

Loss of pet I’m still grieving my loved one What do you do, when I have a Lost a pet I’m still grieving my loved one. I never thought much about this. Till this weekend, on Friday my wife’s horse Harley passed away. I felt so bad for her as she was very sick she just lost the will to live. My wife had a very special bond with her, she saved her 5 years ago at an auction where she was abused and starved. She brought her home and nursed her back to health as she was never a very healthy horse. Harley was the horse that my wife fell off of a few years ago as I wrote and explained in my e-book Angels feel free to download it. After my daughter passed away. Our dog Abby was her best friend, One of the most gentle Golden Retrievers that any parent could ask for to be around your children.  She was their best friend, always there. Do you, or have you ever...
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What is your most important goals for 2016

What is your most important goals for 2016. That is if you do not hit any other goal that you have then nothing else will matter. Think of this as long-term for your life. With New Year’s just a little over 24 hours away. I’m sure you are setting a New Year’s resolution. Some of the most popular are the same that I have set for myself over the years. For example: Lose weight Save money Live a happy life Make more money Better relationships Spend more time with God Find new love Eat better Get a better Job Start a business These are some of the ones that most people all want. Now these are all good ones to work towards, as I’m sure that there are many more that I didn’t list. Now going back to that question I asked earlier If you do not reach any of theses goals nothing else would matter. What would that goal be? I have been thinking about this a lot over the last month or...
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The day after Christmas

It’s the day after Christmas. What are you doing this day? You may have went out shopping for more deals Returns Clean up the house Take down the decorations Take in a movie Well these are just a few if you are anything like me you are feeling physically and mentally drained So how do you overcome this feeling of a comatose state or a Christmas hangover? This last week of the year is a great time just sit back and take this day off, don’t expect anything to happen. You have the rest of the year to do all that. Well it is only a week-long year. Start of by thinking of your goals what you would like to accomplish in 2016, Don’t spend a lot of time dwelling about all the goals that you didn’t reach. As a parent that has lived the year surviving grief, I’m sure we all didn’t reach our goals. I have spent the last month thinking of the direction for my blog and writing.  As a father who...
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The art of grieving

The art of grieving, why do I call it an art as it is a craft of something that must be achieved? This is not what I’m talking about here. But we must learn how to deal with our grief so we may be able to function through each day. Or should I say to survive each day as it delivers all the challenges that grief deals us. The art of grieving your loss, what it means to me is that we all grieve in our own way as there is no right or wrong way to grieve. This is the art of grieving. Or at least understanding our grief and how it may affect our lives and others around us. Our grief can be a very harmful to us if it goes unchecked. It starts with our thinking, we must understand as it states in the bible that a man is what he thinks. What we think so we become. Now with that being said we are struggling with our grief and just...
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Grief and the Holidays

Grief and the holidays, what questions do you have about your grief and the holidays as they are approaching very fast being today is the 1st of November. I can remember my first Thanksgiving and Christmas or at least parts of it being 22 years ago. Most of it was a blur and why is it we seem to remember or recall what wasn’t pleasant or bad? What I do recall is the family getting together at my parents house, my sister was there with her daughter, she is about the same age as my daughter Kelsey just a few months apart in age. This was very hard to see her enjoying Christmas with all the presents for her. Now we do have another daughter that was 9 years old that was also celebrating Christmas. We spent the time with her and watched her open they presents she had. What I remember most is that my sister and I got in an argument.  I was upset that they were all happy and it just seamed...
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Change your story and change your life

 Change your story and change you life So you are in the middle of your grief and all the pain that goes with that. You are working through the stages of grief and you just don’t feel like you want to change your story and change your life or any part of your story as you may feel guilty if you were to do that. Maybe your loved one just passed away right at the beginning of the holidays and your grief and feelings are just too fresh in your mind to even begin to make any changes. The most important part of your grief is to continue to work through the stages of grief.  You may be asking what I am talking about with the stages of grief.  I had to learn this for myself as nobody ever let me know about the stages of grief and how it was to impact me on how to deal with everything I was going through. Stages of grief. Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance If you...
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What’s your life’s story

What’s your life’s story? What would you tell me about your story? As we look at the up and coming holidays and we are preparing for them and you and I were talking, I asked you what your story is. What would you tell me? What I’m getting at is that our story defines us, it is who we are, the more we think about our story the more we become like our story. For example if you have been writing in your mind about your story as your life is now after the loss of your loved one, you may be living that story in the present. It can bring into your life many different emotions that may not be very pleasant. Your fears about the holidays are a direct result of what your story is and what you have been thinking about.  99% of your fears and worries never come true. Let me give you an example of what I’m talking about here. I’ll tell you my story from that 1st Christmas that...
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New Kindle eBook released on Angels

New Kindle eBook released on Angels.  Angels: Are Angels, Guardian Angels, Spirit Guides Archangels among Us Messages from Heaven and the Afterlife   The question is there Angels among us? I never really put a lot of thought to this question even after my daughter passed away 22 years ago. As I was searching for answers to her death, I always felt that she was my guardian angel, I even wore a gold angel pin on my shirt, had a gold chain with a guardian angel pedant on it. I felt that as long as I had these on my person she would be with me. I had put my belief on the reality of angels as they were tied to me wearing such guardian angel pins and pendants. This I found was the farthest from the truth. My journey and surviving the grief in my life, I had many different experience that made me think about the existence of angels in our lives. What do you think of when you think of Angels?...
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Angels

Angels Are Angels, Guardian Angels, Spirit Guides Archangels among Us Messages from Heaven and the Afterlife My personal story of loss and searching for answers following my daughter’s death and what I found out about Angels, Guardian Angels Spirit Guides and the afterlife   Here is one of my personal stories that is in my book As I ended with the last story about a horse riding accident I have one that my wife Lori had her own horse riding accident back in 2012. She had purchase a brand new pair of cowboy boots and on a nice Saturday afternoon she decided to go out and ride the horses. She started out on our horse Charlie but he just didn’t want to be ridden that day, so she then put the saddle on her horse Harley. They went out into the field, everything was just fine until Charlie the other horse got spooked for some reason and took off towards the barn. Harley the horse that Lori was riding began to follow Charlie. As...
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