A Father

That Day Comes That Changes Your Life

        Nobody ever thinks that when they wake up that at the end of the day your life as you knew would forever be different. Well let me say that I now know that life can happen to anybody at any time. Mostly when you least expect it.    What do you do when this happens? You wake up and when you get home your life and family tree has changed forever. Kelsey was with our babysitter on June 15, 1993 and she drown in our city pool. What do you do now as I was the father? My main job as her father was to protect her from harm. I had failed her. That is and was a big part of my grief that has haunted me for so long.    Following a tragic death of a loved one you have so many questions as I did. There is no hand book or step by step guide to help you. You get a lot of advice for family and friends, But none of...
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My eBook is on Amazon Grieving & Living with Tragic Loss

      As I have been working on my book A Father’s Loss I felt a very strong desire to begin a series of        short story eBooks as I write my main book.  The goal here is to be able to add value to those that may be seeking some help as they are grieving their own personnel loss.  I understand that my complete story may not interest everyone,  I do believe that everyone will get value from my story A Father’s Loss.    Those of us that have grieving tragic loss in our life can pick up my eBooks on Amazon HERE We are all in a different place in our grief. So these short eBooks I believe can provide the reader with some comfort with the grieving process, that is my goal. If you come out with just one little nugget that will help you begin to see the light of your future and learning to live with your own personnel grief, then I have done my job here. Here is some of what is in this...
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Happy 26th Birthday Kelsey

   Today is July 3, 2015. This day is just like all the others as it has been 22 birthdays that I have not been able to spend with you.  You would be 26 years old today.  How I wonder what kind of young lady you would have become, as I do every birthday that has come and gone.  I’m sure It will be the same next year on your 27th and all the others to follow. I can’t help but to ask, Would you be married? Would you have children? How old would they be? 1,2 or more maybe. Where would you be living? Would you close or far away? Your husband is he a good provider for you? What is the type of work you do? These are just a few of he things I think about on special days of the year, It’s just not fair that your life was taken so soon at such a young age. But most of all I still feel that as your father I was to protect you and...
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Idea’s on Grief, What Am I Feeling? Is It Right?

The Mourner’s Bill of Rights by Alan D. Wolfelt, Though you should reach out to others as you do the work of mourning, you should not feel obligated to accept the unhelpful responses you may receive from some people. You are the one who is grieving, and as such, you have certain “rights” no one should try to take away from you. The following list is intended both to empower you to heal and to decide how others can and cannot help. This is not to discourage you from reaching out to others for help, but rather to assist you in distinguishing useful responses from hurtful ones. 1. You have the right to experience your own unique grief. No one else will grieve in exactly the same way you do. So, when you turn to others for help, don’t allow them to tell what you should or should not be feeling. 2. You have the right to talk about your grief. Talking about your grief will help you heal. Seek out others who...
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WHY NOW

Some people may be asking or saying Rick why now after 22 years?  Or maybe more like after 22 years why would you want to bring up all that pain?  Or maybe haven’t you had enough? What are you doing you have no idea what you’re talking about? Leave it to the people that have letters after their names like PhD’s? What are doing writing a book? Your not a writer. All these are great questions that people that may or may not know me may have.  Well all I have to say is Why not now? Well let me put it this way, till you walk in my shoes then you don’t really know how I may feel about this subject, also how passionate I feel, it’s that important to me. I have been wanting to do a book, blog, Vlog and Facebook page for a long time.  I have done a lot of different business in the past where I was working on helping people.  I felt the drive to take what I know or...
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